A Journey

of

Self Discovery

I teach you…

• The 5 steps that move my clients from confusion, frustration and overwhelm, to finding real joy, happiness and fulfilment in their lives.

• A simple structure that creates self-respect, self-worth, and self-confidence in our clients - bringing back that all too often lost feeling of who they truly are.

• Why focussing on the problems is THE WORST thing to do... and the simple 7-steps for changing perspective and creating the life you really want.

• How our clients finally let go of the hounding “what if” thoughts and move forward into exciting futures; filled with connection, love, and laughter - even after years of upset, doubt and confusion.

• AND, how they achieved all of this while being true to their needs, without confrontation, compromise or hours of counselling and therapy.

My promise to you

A Step by step strategy to move you from confused, frustrated, and overwhelmed, to happy, fulfilled and purposeful. Even if you think you've tried everything.

Is this for you?

Does this sound familiar?

• Have you spent, months, years, even decades wondering what life is all about? Overwhelmed, disappointed, frustrated, sad?

• Did you grow up believing in fairytales, only to smacked in the face with the harsh reality that life isn’t always what Walt Disney et el led us to believe?

• Is dissatisfaction creeping into your relationship, your career, your friendships, your life, as you compare every part of your life with torturing thoughts of how it could be so different?

• Are you happily married with a great career but that lost feeling is eating away at your confidence, certainty and respect for life, making you second guess every decision you make?

• Do you find yourself lying awake at night wondering “is this it?!” Feeling lost, unsure of who you are and somehow completely disconnected from the rest of the world?

• Is the frustration, confusion and overwhelm seeping in to all areas of your life, finding yourself snapping, overreacting, or sulking as you wonder how on earth you get off of this perpetual cycle of uncertainty?

From The Amazing People That I’ve worked with

Loving myself has positively impacted my love to and from everyone else in my life - Nicole

“I was struggling with some emotional issues around my parents and also in my relationship when I spoke with Jacqui. I was letting the way others felt affect me quite profoundly and I felt as though I had been offered a lifeline, that perhaps for once things could really change for the better when Jacqui invited me to work with her.

For me I feel as though my biggest celebration is the feeling of not being completely bound by what others say or do. I no longer feel that sense of uncertainty and the emotional rollercoaster that comes with that.

Through learning to love myself better I am able to love others too. I have had some massive stand out moments particularly with my horse where I am getting some wonderful results in our relationship because I am more present and understanding of myself. I can see what a relief it is for her that I am being kinder and more loving towards myself. I feel as though she is able to express herself more and feels less worried about things.

My partner has been greatly affected by the work I’ve been doing. I feel as though I have been able to be much more honest in my communication and manage my emotions in a positive way. I am able to be more expressive, honest and loving.

I have always found the relationship with my mum particularly challenging. I feel as though the work around gratitude has helped me with this. My feelings towards her have shifted from being angry and frustrated to more accepting and loving. The exercise with the mirror was particularly very helpful with this. Regarding this exercise I wanted to say how grateful I am to you Jacqui for sharing your experience about your previous relationship. It was so incredibly powerful and helped me so much in emotions/memories I had around my relationship with my ex husband. Instead of anger I have a warm glow thinking about the really wonderful memories I have.

My work has improved tremendously. There are areas in my job that I struggle with particularly since I work alone. I have found the courage to address areas of my job where I have lacked confidence and I am now seeing the results of that. In attending conferences where I meet lots of people I am finding my confidence growing as well. I am so much more comfortable in my own skin and able to relax more in strangers company without needing to drink a few glasses of wine to do this.
I recently did a speed networking session in a conference where I felt the familiar dread and butterflies however within minutes I was really enjoying myself and was able to step out of myself and really listen and learn lots from others. I never thought I’d say that I enjoyed a speed networking session or even that I look forward to the next one!

I feel more excited about my future and though I know that I cannot control everything that happens, that’s ok because I have a really different way of looking at things.

The essential thing is that everything feels ok now, from this point. I feel as though I have all I need right now which makes me more able to plan the next steps in my life journey and I would recommend Jacqui’s programme to anyone who is feeling stuck. Who knows that they haven’t always felt like this and who also knows they have so much deep inside that they would like to express.
It is a journey that requires a wholehearted commitment to yourself - As with most things in life you will get out what you put in.

This programme is the most precious gift you could offer to yourself and at the same time those around you.”

Watch Nicole’s video here:

I feel so much happier and content within myself and confident to tackle whatever comes head on - NL

“I just wanted to write to express my sincere gratitude and thanks for all your help over the last eight weeks. I really feel like a completely different person to the one who plucked up the courage to pick up the phone to you at the start of the Summer. When I look back I can really tell what a journey I have been on and that really is down to you and the way you have helped me to explore life from a different, positive, thankful and forgiving angle. 

One of the things I have enjoyed most about this process has been the weekly chats with you and the other ladies and being able to share positive experiences and get great advice from listening to them.

It was also really interesting to notice the changes in people as they progressed along their journey and that, although we couldn't always see each other, you could really hear the growing confidence and self assuredness and excitement in their voices. I think that sometimes you don't really notice the journey you are on yourself, as it happens little by little every day, but you could really notice it in others as the weeks progressed.

I feel so much happier and content within myself and confident to tackle whatever comes head on, knowing that if and when I make decisions it is because I want to make them, not because I think it is a decision that other people want to hear.

I have learned to let go of so many things which have also been a burden for a very long time - even though perhaps didn't realise it and I find myself actively seeking out the positives in a day and engaging with people in a more positive way, because I can, not because I think I ought to or might get something out of it.

For a lot of this journey, I felt like I struggled with finding my 'A ha!' moments. However, since finishing the 8 weeks, they seem to be coming thick and fast. For example, chatting with a colleague at work, and not one I even know that well, I suddenly found myself realising how much pressure I had put myself under whilst working in my last job and so grateful I was to have been given the opportunity to go back to a job, albeit very different to the one I had before and feel so supported and appreciated by so many people. 

I also realised I could be happy for other people for things that previously I would have been very envious about and that above all, I am happy with myself - this one happened whilst I was just standing in my garden the other day! Each time this happened it was like a proper physical release of something - so thank you!

I know that the journey is far from over but I am so glad it has started and I am trying really hard to  make sure that I make that 1% shift every day to make my life more positive. I have even started to make my kids tell me three things each night that they are grateful for before they go to bed so that they too can start each day feeling thankful and positive.

Anyway, enough from me, but I just wanted to express properly how thankful I am to you and the other ladies that I have 'met' over the last 8 weeks for starting me off on this wonderful journey. Please thank them for their support tonight in your group chat and if I can ever buy you a coffee or a glass of wine to say thank you in person, that would be lovely.” ~ NL

I wish I had found this 20 years ago ~ Maria

“When I found this programme I was in a very bad place in my relationship. Becoming a mother and working full time had taken its toll and the home had become a place of conflict and felt like a battle ground. My little girl was 3 and a half and I knew that things needed to change for both myself and my daughter. Joining the programme gave me a sense of worth that I had long forgotten. It helped me start to believe in myself and meant that I finally spent time reconnecting.

In the short space of 8 weeks my home is no longer a place of conflict. I am equipped to handle disagreements in a positive way and have noticed the enormous change in positive energy in both my partner and daughter. I have established healthy boundaries and have a level of self love I'd not had before.

The 8 weeks highlighted to me the importance in self awareness and care and I have vision where before I had doubt in so many areas of my life.

I found Jacqui really compassionate and totally non judgemental even though she'd see me at pretty rock bottom. And, I found the group sessions so valuable, and the energy and support from the others amazing.

There is only one thing that could have made this journey better for me, and that's if I had discovered it 20 years ago.”

Watch Maria’s video here:

It works! - Tracey

“I was dealing with frustration and overwhelm when Jacqui and I first spoke, especially the poor behaviour and blame that went with that.

Being invited to work with Jacqui in the A Journey of Self Discovery programme was a positive start to change and it immediately gave a different way to look at things.

I loved the going back to the child and I have used that two ways; for myself - it gave me a softer less harsh approach and helped me lose the negative talk, and it gave me someone else to ask! -What would I have done as a child? I was braver then and less squashed by things.
With others, if they behave poorly, I now see it as their inner child shouting out, as mine once did. Then it is not so personal, could be an overwhelm from something else for them. Be kind and see what happens rather than flicking the finger and becoming huffy and defensive.

I had a clear vision of my future before I met Jacqui; I had my business in the pipeline - it is still in the pipeline but it’s galloping up and I now realise that I can do it with my family rather than shutting them out. I am very territorial and I have learnt to relax that but also be clearer about my world so that others can come in without causing damage by mistake.

I have learnt a lot from Jacqui, and as for the programme, let it work! Stick to it. The exercises are a short time but your subconscious works with them a lot longer than that. I am still having Ah Ha moments now.”

Watch Tracey’s video here:

I was plagued with self confidence issues, anxiety and a low mood - Jane

“Before I worked with Jacqui I was plagued with self confidence issues, anxiety about the future and a low mood. I did not value myself and blamed myself for everything.

It was particularly critical when Jacqui invited me in to the programme with her as it came at a time when I would be returning to general practice after 6 years in the corporate world, as well as taking on a couple of other new challenges.
And I was to finally have my ex-partner move out 3 years after we split up - he had become and emotional crutch.

It sounded like the perfect programme come at the perfect time, for me. I'd come so far on my own, but it was time to really challenge some unhelpful behaviours and beliefs and I needed help with that! - There are so many high points, these are just some of them!…
1. Getting my sanctuary sorted at the start made a massive difference to me. It gave me a place to just be. And to do the activities and really start being regular about my mindfulness practice and reflection.
2. My diary was so useful. I did keep a reflective journal anyway but the added accountability of doing it as part of the programme really helped me keep it up. It is amazing to look back through it now!
3. My key learning was to be kind to myself and I now am aware of when I am putting too much pressure on myself or judging myself and can easily adopt a kind, gentle compassion towards myself. It definitely stops those spirals of negativity. I am feeling much more confident in myself and find myself feeling responsible inappropriately for others less often.
4. I have been suffering from chronic pain related to endometriosis, fibroids and scar tissue from several operations on an almost daily basis. I was having to take increasing analgesia to cope. I applied the pendulum technique to communicate with my unconscious to ask her to filter out unhelpful pain. From that day I have had NO pain except associated directly with my periods (the endometriosis), the daily toothache-like pain has COMPLETELY gone. I only need analgesia for 2 days a month rather than every day. And I was so sceptical about the pendulum thing! I decided to approach it with an open heart and mind and it just goes to show how important trust, acceptance and non-judgement actually are.

I am positive about the future. I know now where my true north is and I know what I value in me and in my daily life.
I am aware of spirals and simply don't allow them into my life. I feel that I have all the resources I need to deal with whatever I need to and to make a path for myself that leads to happiness and fulfilment.

Don’t think about it, just do it! You cannot put a value on understanding yourself and learning to be aware of how you may trip yourself up, and how you can grow as a person. Jacqui is an amazing guide and a wonderful support. To connect with yourself and value yourself is a magical gift. She has a frequent saying that I think is wonderful.... "you can't unlearn this stuff".... I truly have learned lessons that I will take through the rest of my life with me.”

Watch Jane’s video here:

I can see a future now ~ Lucinda

“I was very emotional, anxious and genuinely in a bad place due to getting divorced after 20years marriage when I recommended to Jacqui.

It was a real life line for me being invited to the programme and to have the ongoing support and advice from Jacqui.

The celebration and healing from my the time during the programme has been my new found ability to cope with everyday. Before my time with Jacqui I was at a stage in my life where the overwhelm and emotions had reached a level where it was impossible to see a future. I have learnt it’s ok to have a bad day and that these pass, and I now have to the ability and skills to deal with life.

The fact that I can see a future is a huge thing for me. In the darkest days this had become impossible. What stays with me is that improvement is there even if it’s just 1% at a time.

I cant recommend Jacqui and the Journey of Self Discovery highly enough. This cane to me at a time in my life that I needed it the most and I am truly grateful for the opportunity and results I’ve had.”

Watch Lucinda’s video here:

Everything has changed ~ Jehanne

"I can honestly say Jacqui turned my life around in 2016. I started working with Jacqui to help me stop procrastinating and get confidence and focus in my new business. Jacqui was kind, understanding, supportive and challenged me when I needed it most. Ultimately it was other areas of my life that were holding me back, a big part of that was my relationship with my husband. I am so grateful for the insight, inspiration, care and guidance Jacqui has shared, not only am I a better person for it, I am in the happy loving marriage I had always dreamed of."