Why choose anger?
I wrote a post recently titled "you always have a choice" and today it struck me again as I noticed an angry emoji against a different post.
When you do always have a choice... for what purpose would you chose anger, sadness, fear, guilt, frustration etc?
It's a question I also asked myself recently having found myself in a space, beside myself with emotion, that I simply didn't take control of in the moment. Yep - I'm human ;)
Now, I could have beaten myself up about the place that I went to, the way I reacted in the moment, and the emotions that I allowed to spill out of me.
But I didn't
Instead I took the time I needed to notice, allow and let go of the onslaught of thoughts and feelings that came after the fact.
I took on a third person persona, evaluated what had been going on for me, and around me in that moment.
And then I made some choices.
Choices of who I wanted to show up as, should that situation ever arise again.
Choices about how I was going to move forward from the space I had found myself in.
Choices around what is really important to me.
Choices around what I wanted to learn from the situation.
This analytical process, used to be far outside of my normality. Much more the emotional, go with my heart, react in the moment, kind of person that I used to be. She would have jumped up, allowed her ego to take over, and thrown her world into turmoil.
She would have sunk away inside herself for days, weeks, maybe even months.
Not any more.
When you can take a step outside of yourself to assess what's really going on. To allow yourself the time and space to move your ego to one side and say
"Hey, I'm not perfect. I'm doing the best I can and I chose to learn from this."
When you do that, possibilities, that wouldn't have been available to you before, suddenly open up in front of you.
And from that space - even more choices can be made.
It's not about beating yourself up, or "shoulding yourself"
It's all part of taking 100% responsibility for your life.
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