If nothing changes... nothing changes!
IF NOTHING CHANGES - NOTHING CHANGES.
Speaking with a lady yesterday about where life had taken her, we moved on to focusing on how she wanted it to be different and who she wanted to show up as, in her world.
Her story wasn't unusual, though that doesn't make it any less harrowing; She had split with her husband having found out he'd had an affair, and was struggling to come to terms, not with the barrage of emotions, so much as the lack of them.
Where there had once been peace, happiness, joy and laughter, there was now anger, sadness and fear.
Where she had previously been outgoing, social, interactive, she was not insecure, solitary and insular.
Fear though, is an interesting emotion. It's sneaky. It hides behind anger and frustration. It rears it's head inappropriately and in the most unwanted of circumstances.
Like a drug, or an addiction, beings to take hold when we least expect it and from there, if unchecked, it can begin to strangle.
You will have heard the saying - if you're not growing, your dying. Or, if you're not expanding - you're retracting. There is no staying still.
Not making a choice - IS a choice.
Awareness, as with everything in life, is the first massive step to change.
But when awareness is present, and choices are not made, the only direction is deeper down in to the holds of fear.
This quote from Lao Tzu says it so beautifully:
“Men are born soft and supple; dead they are stiff and hard. Plants are born tender and pliant; dead, they are brittle and dry. Thus whoever is stiff and inflexible is a disciple of death. Whoever is soft and yielding is a disciple of life. The hard and stiff will be broken. The soft and supple will prevail.”
Those who seek change, growth, expansion. Those who gain awareness and make choices... they are the ones who will not just survive, but THRIVE.
Who do you want to be?
If you know you want change. Are committed to change and yet perhaps don't know the how. Schedule a call.
On this call we will look at what's going on for you right now, where you want to be and how you want to show up in your world, and most importantly we will look at the exact steps to get you there.
The decision then is yours.... To change, or not to change.....