Divorce Day: January 7, 2019!
Did you know that RIGHT NOW is the most important time of the year to save your marriage and have the relationship of your dreams, even if you are the only one currently stepping forward, committed to this?
I’ll explain how in just a moment.
But first, let’s talk about why so many people think this isn’t possible.
The truth is that you’ve been LET DOWN.
Let down by so many relationship experts who want you to believe that spending months and sometimes years talking EVERYTHING over, being forced to repeat over and over, and then conversely listen to over and over, all that hasn’t and isn’t going right in the relationship, focusing only on the symptoms, is the key to saving your marriage.
And on the surface, I get it. It sounds good!
You get to air your pent up issues, speak out all of the things that have annoyed you, worried you, concerned you. You’re able to really focus on getting all of that negativity out of you and your partner gets to do the same.
But let me just come right out and say it: spending months (and all too often years) focusing on getting all of this negativity out and ensuring your partner understands is DISASTROUS. Here’s why:
Speaking about what’s not working for you in the relationship - When you are focused on picking up on what’s not working, and taking that along to yet another blame game session, where you feel safe enough to express those issues, the most common outcome is that one or both partners give up. Shut down. No longer interested in any type of communication, far less that which involves them feeling like they can do nothing right.
Listening to what’s not working for your partner in the relationship - This is draining, demoralising, and self-confidence busting. Couples who have gotten to the point of seeking out therapy for their relationship are often already teetering on a knife edge of self-esteem. When you then feel the onslaught of “all you’ve done wrong” the chances of you having the inclination, far-less the energy to be productive, loving, empathetic and caring go right out of the window.
Spending months in this cycle - These well meaning, and all too common practices create greater distance between couples who invest in those that advocate them. The result being that a massive percentage of couples end up in divorce anyway. What’s worse is that having focused on the “what’s not working” for so long, and with the mix of severe self-esteem and self confidence issues that arise there, the likelihood of going on to have successful relationships in the future, if no other intervention is sought, is nil.
But the BIGGEST reason of all is that DIVORCE DAY is coming!
The day which brings in the most divorce inquiries coming. It’s the first working Monday of the New Year and it has the label of divorce day for this reason, and it’s not one that anyone hoping to save an unstable marriage wants to ignore.
This coming New Year, Monday January 7, is the day that takes up the mantel. When relationships are already showing cracks, with lack of connection, empathy, love and understanding, the additional pressures of the Christmas holidays see many relationships buckling to breaking point. For many, enough is enough.
And that’s an absolute tragedy because it doesn’t have to be this way.
So if that’s the old disastrous way, …what’s the new and SMART way?
Simple: Love first, empathy and understanding.
Here’s why this is BRILLIANT:
When you love yourself, first, you create the space for love to come back to you - building your identity to re-establish who you truly are, being the best you can be and changing the dynamics of your relationship from the inside out. It is almost magical how, when you learn to love you first, everything around you starts to change.
When you choose to love first instead of casting judgment or being frustrated, the ability for change within the relationship amplifies. You create a safe space, emotionally, spiritually and physically for you and your partner to grow into and from that place, everything is possible.
When love is your base point your whole world changes. You begin to see things differently, act and react differently. With this comes an air of peace, where happiness is allowed to renter the relationship and allow it to thrive.
And the best part is when you change what you focus on to love, love is what you receive...and that’s what’s going to enable you to save your marriage and have the relationship you dream and desire without losing yourself to depression, anxiety, love self-esteem, low-self-confidence, shame, anger and sadness.
Do you see how powerful that is?
Here’s the thing, though: no one else is teaching this. And the ones that are, don’t really understand it.
If you would like to find out about how you can use this idea, to have the the relationship you truly deserve and desire, in just 8 weeks.
That’s right. Not months and years. Eight Weeks.
If you are sick and tired, literally and metaphorically, and ready to make the changes in your relationship now then let’s get on a call for 45 minutes to and hour to discussed how we can help you to save your marriage and have the relationship of your dreams.
I have just a few slots left before the end of the year so if you want change and you want it now, book a call.
During this call we will take a good look at what’s working, and what’s not working in your relationship - believe me, it’s not what you think. Then, we’ll chat about what you want it to be like. If we’re a good match and I can help you to reach your dreams and goals, I will absolutely show you how, and if not, then I’ll show you that too.
Is 2019 going to be the year you take charge of your life and your relationship? If so, book your call today.
It could be the best 45 minutes you’ve spent on your relationship, ever.
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